It's finally over... at least, i hope it is

After being under SMS siege for two weeks, it's finally over. My God, has it only been two weeks? It ended with an email explaining his actions and apparently to request for clarification, although I can read in every line that he's implying it's my fault; that it's my fault, for the silence on my part, for ignoring his SMSes and calls. You'd think one would be smart enough to get the hint, but noooo.

I wrote back, my email laced with sarcasm, but with enough honesty to express my annoyance and to get my point across. I told him that it was incorrect of him to say that the "relationship ended on a sour, bad note" when there was no relationship to begin with; I told him that you don't bombard a friend you've just met with SMSes and it was totally the wrong way to go after a girl; and I certainly did not expect to have to report to him on my return from an overseas work-related trip. The emails contain much more, but I think this will suffice to cure your curiousity for now.

I have received a genial reply from him, trying to make everything end on a "sweet" note. I didn't bother to reply that one. No point dragging the whole issue out unnecessarily longer than it already is.

I know I'm not too clear about the whole thing, but I have clearly documented and chronicled the entire case which I might someday display here. I might, I might not. You'll have to wait and see. It is enough I think, for now, to say that it's a guy I had only met twice in my entire life (including that one dinner which he thinks is my commitment-binding contract to him; the first being a work-related appointment at the company he works in) and I hope to never meet again. The two weeks of SMSes contained personal questions with regards to my age and my home address; SMSes asking if I was angry about the numerous SMes received; asking why I don't reply; etc. I go out for one dinner and suddenly he thinks I'm his girlfriend. To reject him nicely - and for good - on a friend's suggestion I concocted some story about my ex being back in town and he then asked me to choose between him and my ex. I mean, who does he think he is?? He sent me a rather unpleasant SMS saying that that's the end of it (end of what? We had nothing going on in the first place), but that was followed closely by the emails.

A friend said that "he is obviously in love" with me - obsessed is the more correct term to use, really. Another called him "psychotically possessive". I shudder to think what his (future) girlfriend(s)/wife (if any) would be put through. He might be a nice person, but this whole episode certainly does not put him in a good light. I personally want nothing more to do with him.

I've learnt my lesson (that is, to never go out with pyschotically possessive men who are obsessively in love with me). I hope he has learnt his.

Fathead!

Are some guys just so thick that they don't get it when a girl isn't interested? I went out with one date on this guy and he starts SMSing and calling every day like mad. And when I ignore those SMSes and calls he starts sending me pathetic SMSes asking if I'm angry or annoyed and starts begging me to tell him why I'm not replying. Isn't it very obvious that I am so not interested? For Christ's sake, we've only just met, we weren't even friends to begin with. It's like, one yes to dinner seems to mean to him that I'm already his girlfriend. Pathetic doesn't even begin to describe what he's like!